Four Important Notes about Signing Up:
1.) We get more than 10 spammers for every real person trying to sign up to this forum. Therefore, we must manually approve you before you can start posting. Make sure to use a username that makes it obvious that you are legitimate, such as "strugglingYid", "Eli", "Moshe", "moralPurity", etc...
2.) We have a special forum for women (which is not accessible to the men). If you are a woman, please make it obvious in the username that you choose (for example "strugglingWoman" or "Esther"), so we can then direct you to the women's forum once you are approved. Thank you!
3.) We have a special forum for "Married Men" (which is not accessible to regular members), where married men can discuss issues that they may be uncomfortable discussing in the open forum among singles (such as Niddah cycles, marital relations, and issues that come up with their wives, etc.). If you are married and would like access, please send us an e-mail to eyes.guard@gmail.com after signing up, so we can give your username access to this forum once you are approved.
4.) We have a special forum for spouses of addicts (which is not accessible to anyone else). If you the spouse of an addict, please send us an e-mail to eyes.guard@gmail.com after signing up, so we can give your username access to this forum once you are approved.
General Rules
1.) Any cross-gender communication on our forum, or off it, is strictly forbidden. The men and women's forums are totally separated. Men cannot access the women's forum, and women cannot post on the men's forum. PM'ing between the genders is blocked by our system, and the women's e-mail addresses are hidden in their profiles. If, in spite of all these safe-guards, a man or woman finds a way to contact someone of the opposite gender from our forum, they can be banned from the forum. (* See one exception below)
2.) The GYE forum welcomes diverse viewpoints and creativity, provided that they are within (or at least not in conflict with) a Torah framework.
3.) Topics where opinions are strong and which can easily lead to controversy should generally be avoided, especially if they are not related to the issues of this forum (e.g. reconciling Torah and science, politics, etc...).
4.) Please try to make your posts understandable to the average reader on the forum. If there are spelling or grammatical mistakes that make your post hard to understand, a moderator may make some minor adjustments to your post to make it more understandable.
5.) Posts may not contain Lashon Horah, disrespect to Talmidei Chachamim or Chazal, Keffirah, or other violations of Halacha.
6.) Vulgar or blasphemous language, even if used in jest or "tongue in cheek," is forbidden on the GYE forum. Furthermore, posts that are in poor taste may be edited or removed.
7.) No one may post anything that may insult, embarrass or offend another member of the forum. If this happens by mistake, the offender should be quick to apologize.
8.) Posts should not contain details (about personal struggles or otherwise) that others may find triggering, or contain links to websites that some may find triggering. If a member wants to submit a detailed post that may need to be edited, he should send it to the administrator or to the moderators as a private message. Women should submit such posts to the moderator in charge of the Women’s Forum (7Up).
9.) Please exercise caution in posting details about therapy sessions. What your therapist recommends for you may be completely inappropriate for most other people.
10.) We encourage everyone to share what works for them, or how they view recovery. We ask, however, that no member "put down" or "prove wrong" or "discredit" any other approaches to recovery that may be working for other members.
11.) GYE takes internet safety very seriously. While the need to be cautious is vital no matter where you surf, it is even more important when you are involved in a forum that caters to sex/Lust addiction. The GYE forum is completely anonymous and should remain that way. Posts should not contain any personal information such as real names, email addresses, telephone numbers or personal websites. Avoid mentioning any information that a third party could use to locate you - your school or shul name, favorite hangout spot, etc. are examples of things not to discuss on the forum.
If you want to share your e-mail address for the purpose of finding a partner or sponsor, please Download the Questionnaire here (right-click and choose "Save Target/Link As") and e-mail it to our "Partner/Sponsor Gabai" at partner.gye@gmail.com please..
Unfortunately, befriending strangers on this forum can be just as dangerous as in real life - if not more so, since you have no way of verifying their identity and this forum caters to sex/lust/love addicts. As a rule of thumb, never agree to meet in person with someone you met on this forum. If you decide to get to know someone from the forum a little better, demand identification and voice verification before revealing any personal information. Men should NEVER meet women and women should NEVER meet men. This is not just a matter of tznius, it’s a matter of safety. Use common sense and trust your gut. If you suspect something is fishy, report it to a moderator AND stop communicating with the suspect.
*The only exception to rule #1 is "7Up", an older woman who is known as the GYE Rebbetzin, who moderates the women's forum. Men may PM her and contact her by e-mail, to get a women's perspective on things - such as if they have issues with their wives or other such questions relating to the addiction.
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